About Me


Zéphyr / Zeph • 21+ • Queer • French • They / Them - It / Its (when we’re talking in English)

I block easily, I won’t debate with you about anything.

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My PP: sonia.david.clo.chan55@gmail.com

Icon by @yourfaveisabop / Banner by @oh-theatre / Background by Hoshizora-no-Shita on Deviantart.

[Icon description: A round icon of Allen Walker from the manga D.Gray-Man, a white-haired teen with blue eyes and a star-shaped purple scar above his right eye going on his cheek. He had his left hand saluting and is winking. Timcampy, a round golden golem with wings is pressed against his cheek. The background is a flag with purple, blue, white, pink and lavender strips.

Banner description: A white piece of paper with the rainbow pride flag in the middle. At each sides are 3 kind of golden flower petals. At the top of the flag is written “be”, in its center “gay” and at the bottom “do crime”.

Background description: A blue-green background with faces of different characters from the Professor Layton games as well as the logo of the games. /end description]

onyxedskies:

what, if any, of your joints/bones pop or crack (other than your back)

fingers/toes

wrists/ankles

neck

knees

hips

elbows

collarbones

sternum

multiple (say in tags!)

are you guys ok???

i’ve experienced popping and cracking in all of the above so i wanna know how normal this is

vaspider:

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fatgirldangerousworld:

Today, I launched Secondhand Stare, a plus size vintage and resale shop that carries sizes large - 7X and most everything is under $40.   This is a full circle moment for me and here's why. pic.twitter.com/urqyC5CNrp  — Alysse Dalessandro 🌈 (@readytostare) March 30, 2023ALT

Shop here:

[Image description: a tweet from Alysse Dalessandro @ReadyToStare that says, “Today, I launched Secondhand Stare, a plus size vintage and resale shop that carries sizes large - 7X and most everything is under $40. This is a full circle moment for me and here’s why.”

Attached is a graphic with the store’s name in a funky, 70s style font. The background is a black and white racing flag pattern, with rainbows in the top left and bottom right corners.

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Wow, this is amazing!

I haven’t bought anything from this shop yet since it literally just opened, but here’s some quick facts about the shop for anyone who wants more information:

  • As already stated, the sizes go from a large to a 7X (size 6 through 40). I’m assuming everything is in American sizes since the shop is based in Ohio. The website allows you to shop by size too. There’s no measurement information other than the size that is written on the tag.
  • The shop is run by the fatshion blogger “Ready to Stare” who used to post photos of her outfits on Tumblr, which also means the shop selling clothes for mid-size and fat bodies is run by a fat person who is familiar with fashion and styling for diverse body types!
  • The shop is basically an online thrift store, so that means essentially every item only has one size since it’s a single item being sold. However, this means as well that the clothes are way cheaper than clothes bought new. 
  • Not only are most of the items modeled in pictures, which is a feat in itself since every photo is for a single purchase, but the store has ACTUAL! FAT! MODELS!!!! There’s already a good amount of diversity in the models used, and this is with the store just starting! Imagine how many types of people can be represented in the item photos as the shop earns more funds! And when I say actual fat models, I mean that the shop includes models across their entire range of sizes instead of only showing items on the smallest models possible, so there are even models with very fat bodies that never get represented in usual plus size stores!
  • The owner of the shop aims to post new items every Friday and also stated that if you’re straight sized but still want to support the store, you can always buy a purse or the other accessories they sell (Wow, usually I’m having to stick to accessories as my thin friends shop. I’ve never experienced this twist before.)
  • Sales are final since they’re secondhand items. Local pick up is available too, and they can bring the items outside to anyone who can’t use the ladder to get to their second floor studio. Other FAQ answers are written here.
  • Shipping is a little expensive, but it’s still way cheaper than buying new clothes. I added a sweatshirt and sweatpants that were in a set to my cart and it calculated the shipping as about 10 dollars despite me living in the same country as the store. However, that was still about $34 for both a top and the matching bottoms. Since the website says shipping is calculated based on weight, I thought adding a shirt to the cart would make it a lot more expensive, but for whatever reason the shipping cost only increased by $1! When I took the two items out of my cart and just added a pair of shorts, the shipping was about $9 and adding a random shirt increased the shipping by $1 again. So it seems like the shipping might always start around $10 and be more worth the purchase when buying multiple items. Though, of course, this is just based on me messing around with the website and not on any officially released information.
  • All of the clothes are very feminine, but the owner of the shop said that she plans to include masc styles soon. There’s also pride-themed items available! (A lot of the shop’s branding is very rainbowy, I love it!) The clothing options offered on the website looked really great, and as far as I know some of the clothes sold are secondhand from the fashionable fat owner herself!

Here’s also a video by the owner explaining some of the background about the shop. The video features the models as well as brief footage of the website’s layout. (Her YouTube channel I just found through this is actually updated pretty often with videos about fatshion and traveling to different places around the world as a fat person, so I might watch some of her other videos too.)

Thank you @fatgirldangerousworld for this great information!

-Mod Worthy

Please note that $10 shipping for sweatpants and sweatshirt is MARKET RATE USPS SHIPPING.

Shipping is not “expensive” at that rate. Stores like Amazon have been rolling their shipping costs into the price of the item for so long that customers are not used to seeing what shipping actually costs.

That’s about what it actually costs to send two bulky (and heavy) clothing items domestically, including the price of the envelope, the label, and the time of the person packing your order.

Please, folx, if you’re going to write about shipping, I beg of you, read up a little bit on how much it actually costs to ship things, or ask someone who knows.

This is kind of a sore spot for me because we’ve never hidden our shipping costs and people think NerdyKeppie is expensive on that count as a result. Nope! We’re just up front about the actual costs.

What you’re seeing isn’t expensive shipping, it’s honesty about cost.

YEP. I’m always up front with shipping costs on my Kickstarters and people get SO MAD about how expensive it is outside the US. Like. I’m sorry, but there is literally nothing I can do about that. You deserve to know where your money is going.

Yup.

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letitrainathousandflames:

letitrainathousandflames:

My dad told me that he has a coworker who’s a trans woman. She was married to this girl before her transition and they remained together after it. Everyone at work respects her pronouns. My dad is in a chiefing position at his office and he told me that nobody jokes behind her back. She and her wife have two cute dogs together and I felt like I should share this story bc I want everyone to know that this positivity and respect exists and you deserve it. Don’t ever dare think that you don’t because you do.

Update: they have three dogs now

There is a non-binary person I work with who uses they/them pronouns. Their pronouns are in their email signature and the only time I’ve heard someone not use them was one person who had previously worked with them at a time they used different pronouns, and he immediately corrected himself mid-sentence, looked embarrassed, and proceeded. I’ve never heard him or anyone else not use their pronouns again, and my workplace runs the gamut from eighty-year-olds to twenty-year-olds. No one ever discusses their pronouns or anything about their identity behind their back unless it’s to choose a bar or restaurant to hang out (in non-pandemic times) and say “no, we can’t go there, that place doesn’t have a gender neutral restroom for them”. They have been married to a delightful person for ten years and (in non-pandemic times) she would often join for social activities. They have a toddler who is the cutest thing on this earth. They’re an absolutely brilliant engineer and I have learned a great deal from them as they’re much more experienced than I am, and I appreciate how patient they’ve been when I’ve made mistakes. Again, positivity and respect exists and you deserve it every bit as much as these people. Don’t ever forget it.

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cookinguptales:

cookinguptales:

So I’ve been enjoying the Disney vs. DeSantis memes as much as anyone, but like. I do feel like a lot of people who had normal childhoods are missing some context to all this.

I was raised in the Bible Belt in a fairly fundie environment. My parents were reasonably cool about some things, compared to the rest of my family, but they certainly had their issues. But they did let me watch Disney movies, which turned out to be a point of major contention between them and my other relatives.

See, I think some people think this weird fight between Disney and fundies is new. It is very not new. I know that Disney’s attempts at inclusion in their media have been the source of a lot of mockery, but what a lot of people don’t understand is that as far as actual company policy goes, Disney has actually been an industry leader for queer rights. They’ve had policies assuring equal healthcare and partner benefits for queer employees since the early 90s.

I’m not sure how many people reading this right now remember the early 90s, but that was very much not industry standard. It was a big deal when Disney announced that non-married queer partners would be getting the same benefits as the married heterosexual ones.

Like — it went further than just saying that any unmarried partners would be eligible for spousal benefits. It straight-up said that non-same-sex partners would still need to be married to receive spousal benefits, but because same-sex partners couldn’t do that, proof that they lived together as an established couple would be enough.

In other words, it put long-term same-sex partners on a higher level than opposite-sex partners who just weren’t married yet. It put them on the exact same level as heterosexual married partners.

They weren’t the first company ever to do this, but they were super early. And they were certainly the first mainstream “family-friendly” company to do it.

Conservatives lost their damn minds.

Protests, boycotts, sermons, the whole nine yards. I can’t tell you how many books about the evils of Disney my grandmother tried to get my parents to read when I was a kid.

When we later moved to Florida, I realized just how many queer people work at Disney — because historically speaking, it’s been a company that has guaranteed them safety, non-discrimination, and equal rights. That’s when I became aware of their unofficial “Gay Days” and how Christians would show up from all over the country to protest them every year. Apparently my grandmother had been upset about these days for years, but my parents had just kind of ignored her.

Out of curiosity, I ended up reading one of the books my grandmother kept leaving at our house. And friends — it’s amazing how similar that (terrible, poorly written) rhetoric was to what people are saying these days. Disney hires gay pedophiles who want to abuse your children. Disney is trying to normalize Satanism in our beautiful, Christian America. 

Just tons of conspiracy theories in there that ranged from “a few bad things happened that weren’t actually Disney’s fault, but they did happen” to “Pocahontas is an evil movie, not because it distorts history and misrepresents indigenous life, but because it might teach children respect for nature. Which, as we all know, would cause them all to become Wiccans who believe in climate change.”

Like — please, take it from someone who knows. This weird fight between fundies and Disney is not new. This is not Disney’s first (gay) rodeo. These people have always believed that Disney is full of evil gays who are trying to groom and sexually abuse children.

The main difference now is that these beliefs are becoming mainstream. It’s not just conservative pastors who are talking about this. It’s not just church groups showing up to boycott Gay Day. Disney is starting to (reluctantly) say the quiet part out loud, and so are the Republicans. Disney is publicly supporting queer rights and announcing company-supported queer events and the Republican Party is publicly calling them pedophiles and enacting politically driven revenge.

This is important, because while this fight has always been important in the history of queer rights, it is now being magnified. The precedent that a fight like this could set is staggering. For better or for worse, we live in a corporation-driven country. I don’t like it any more than you do, and I’m not about to defend most of Disney’s business practices. But we do live in a nation where rights are largely tied to corporate approval, and the fact that we might be entering an age where even the most powerful corporations in the country are being banned from speaking out in favor of rights for marginalized people… that’s genuinely scary.

Like… I’ll just ask you this. Where do you think we’d be now, in 2023, if Disney had been prevented from promising its employees equal benefits in 1994? That was almost thirty years ago, and look how far things have come. When I looked up news articles for this post from that era, even then journalists, activists, and fundie church leaders were all talking about how a company of Disney’s prominence throwing their weight behind this movement could lead to the normalization of equal protections in this country.

The idea of it scared and thrilled people in equal parts even then. It still scares and thrills them now.

I keep seeing people say “I need them both to lose!” and I get it, I do. Disney has for sure done a lot of shit over the years. But I am begging you as a queer exvangelical to understand that no. You need Disney to win. You need Disney to wipe the fucking floor with these people.

Right now, this isn’t just a fight between a giant corporation and Ron DeSantis. This is a fight about the right of corporations to support marginalized groups. It’s a fight that ensures that companies like Disney still can offer benefits that a discriminatory government does not provide. It ensures that businesses much smaller than Disney can support activism.

Hell, it ensures that you can support activism.

The fight between weird Christian conspiracy theorists and Disney is not new, because the fight to prevent any tiny victory for marginalized groups is not new. The fight against the normalization of othered groups is not new.

That’s what they’re most afraid of. That each incremental victory will start to make marginalized groups feel safer, that each incremental victory will start to turn the tide of public opinion, that each incremental victory will eventually lead to sweeping law reform.

They’re afraid that they won’t be able to legally discriminate against us anymore.

So guys! Please. This fight, while hilarious, is also so fucking important. I am begging you to understand how old this fight is. These people always play the long game. They did it with Roe and they’re doing it with Disney.

We have! To keep! Pushing back!

Someone reblogged this saying they’d never heard any of this before and they didn’t even know how to begin verifying it, so let me help!

Here’s a 1995 article from the NYT about Disney putting this policy into effect after promising to do so in 1994.

Here’s a wikipedia page about Disney’s unofficial Gay Days and how they’ve been protested by Christian groups.

I tried to find the book I read, but honestly so many different weird evangelical anti-Disney books came up when I was googling that I can’t be sure which one it was. 🙃

I can’t help you with sources other than the fact that I too am an exvangelical kid whose parents went on-and-off banning Disney movies from the house as I was growing up. (“On” when the pastor got on a tear about the evils and how the movies had gay propaganda in it and ~witchcraft~ and my mom would obediently remove anything from my reach that had the concept of “magic” in it - and then “Off” when the pastor hadn’t said anything for a while and my mom got sentimental about how much she loved Winnie the Pooh and The Aristocats.)

I remember the first “Gay Days” and how they put up signs around the park saying that it was unofficial and not affiliated with Disney, and how that didn’t stop the evangelicals from foaming at the mouth, and the groups had to change it to “Friendship Days” to keep from getting gay-bashed… and I also remember how the last time I went to Gay Days (2019) they had fucking Pride merch in the stores with signs saying that proceeds from the sales went to GLSEN to prevent gay kids from being bullied at school.

Disney has done a LOT to normalize queerness in the mainstream - and I know it’s a joke, blah blah, first canon Disney queers being a new minor character every year, but outside of the movies, in the real world where real people live, it has done a LOT.

And yeah. You want Disney to wipe the floor with these dudes. Because as evil as some of their business practices are (capitalism sucks, man, and there’s no getting around that) - I HAVE to emphasize that they have been curating a safe space for real-life queer people for decades. And we want that to win.

thechanelmuse:

“We dream of the new stories we can tell, and the new worlds we can together create.”

Sayantani DasGupta, from “Daughter of the Sun”

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lunaemoth asked:

Hello. :) For the color palette challenge: "the void" or "disquiet" for Dream/Sandman? It seems appropriate. I hope it will inspire you!

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Post by “Mike I Guess” @‌mike_i_guess:

The lack of boomer LGBTQ+ people isn’t because it’s “more popular now.” Many were murdered by their peers, died from government inaction during the AIDS crisis, committed suicide due to lack of social supports, or have had to live in the closet due to their peers’ cruelty.
Photo of the San Francisco Gay Men's Chorus, showing most of the members in black suits with their backs turned to the camera: they represent those lost to AIDS. A handful are dressed in white, facing the camera.

“The men in white are the surviving members of the Original San Francisco Gay Men’s Choir. Those in black represent the members lost to AIDs. Remember this when people say the gay community survived the epidemic. We had to start over because we lost a whole generation.” (original post)

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The Corinthian (2022)

Some Daily Reminders


onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. You can’t change the past.

2. Other peoples’ opinions do not define reality.

3. We each have a different journey and path.

4. Overthinking leads to torment and depression.

5. Happiness is an inside job.

6. Change your thinking, change your life.

7. Nothing beats compassion and kindness.

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if they rebooted austin powers it would either be the most tone deaf unfunny incredibly offensive movie in years OR they’d do it right and really keep with the times in being very self aware and it would be one of the best films in decades. austin powers would be a massive support of trans rights because trans women means more women for him to shag

oh your pronouns are she/they? well baby lemme she/them titties shagadelic

austin powers discovers bisexuality and it blows his fucking mind

sub plots of the movie include him learning who he thought was a woman he previously had relations with is a trans man now and powers teaching him the ways of picking up women & powers learning he has a daughter from one of his many escapades who’s accidentally followed in his footsteps to also become a spy. the two have to team up and powers struggles being a father after being absent for so long, but eventually it’s revealed his daughter is a lesbian and they bond over their mutual love of shagging women

the only joke made in regards to the trans man’s gender is powers going “you’re a man now? now that’s groovy, honey! sorry, is it still okay to call you honey?”

the trans man is revealed from powers learning about bisexuality and lamenting that he could’ve also been shagging men this entire time, only for the trans man to be like “well….”

instead of the usual awful transphobic joke of being disgusted powers is instead ecstatic that he’s already had relations with another man and that the pressure is already off for future encounters

there’s a mid credits scene of him celebrating his first planned encounter with a man and him making a comment about how he’s finally been with “both” genders, where he’s then informed of non-binary people existing and how there’s a whole world of genders for him to explore and it freeze frames on his shocked but absolutely delighted face

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spitblaze:

‘the human body is perfect god doesnt make mistakes’ what about wisdom teeth then. huh. gonna let those bastards grow in and fuck up your jaw for god. didnt think so

also the exploding appendix

there’s an entire book about all the ways the human body is fucked up, but the highlights I remember are:

-The blood vessels for our rods and cones in our eyes don’t run behind them but rather in front of them. It’s like putting the power cables *over* a camera’s lens

-the nasal sinus cavities fucked up during evolution. when our skulls shortened, we went from having a straight shot from one end to the other to having basically a basin which can collect mucus, which then has the actual exit for the chamber at the top of it. this normally isn’t a problem bc cillia can work viscous mucus up it, but when we get sick and produce super watery mucus, it no longer works, which is why our noses get stuffed up.

the book is called Human Errors: A Panorama of Our Glitches, from Pointless Bones to Broken Genes. I recommend it.

Most mammals can’t get scurvy. They make their own Vitamin C. But in primates, the gene to make it is broken. Normally, when an important gene breaks, the organism dies and has no surviving descendants, but when it broke a few million years ago, our ancestors were living in a lush climate with lots of fruit and survived the failure just fine.

Then humans invented fire and clothing, and moved to colder climates where fresh food was only available part of the year, and scurvy was born.

And our reproduction, oh heavens. There are SO MANY WAYS that human reproduction is fucked up that simply DO NOT APPLY to other animals, even the our nearest relatives, the great apes. When a gorilla is giving birth, she finds a nice hiding place in the trees, squats down for like half an hour, and pushes out a baby. Humans, not so much. In fact, the outcomes of unassisted childbirth in humans are so poor that most anthropologists agree that we must have invented midwifery in some form before we became fully human.

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Dreamling Show x comic swap ✨

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Insane analysis there @ineffablyendless (agreed)